Next Steps
Just thinking back on the weekend, i think my major sticking point is approach anxiety. This weekend, i think i'm just going to make it a goal to talk to every women at the club that i see weather they are an UG or HB10.
First outing
So today I had a pretty long day. I got home the night before from a friends birthday thing at a local swanky pool hall around 1am or so, and got up bright and early for an 830 am flag football game...Who does that? Anyway after that I did volunteer work, then cleaned out my car, washed my car, and then was really pooped. But, since I started this blog, i thought it was about time I went out with the friend that introduced me to "The Game", we'll call him noodle for now. Anyway, so I call up noodle, but i guess his phone's broken, so i got ahold of him through AIM. We chat a bit and then I decide to get ready and head over to his place. I think We end up sitting there for a good hour just chatting it up and giving him some of the details of my social circle and my friend's, we'll call him Monkey, theory on some of the PUA stuff. Monkey is an up and comming PUA up in Seattle. He's been mainly been giving me the most pointers. Noodle has really only read the book and isn't much the teaching type. Anyway, so we head out to this newer club and we walk in and i'm kinda digging the atmosphere. But I think I lacked the energy to really try to do any pickup. I think i have the potential to be a pretty decent PUA, once i start getting into a convo, I think i can hold the interest, however approach anxiety is still keeping me in the AFC stage. I start the night off by opening guys, just to losen up a bit and to create some social dynamic. I then realize creating a social dynamic around the dance floor of a club, probably doesn't work out very well. I start thinking about how "The Game" applies to pickup at a club. The loungy area seemed to be the best place, but it was mostly like private seating, and i'm not sure if i was ready for that yet. I talk to a few of the ladies that were just standing around, but nothing worth a target. I really need to work on the openers and the immediate transiitons. I need to discard my social programming as well, right now i'm setting myself up to fail, sort of a self fullfilling profiecy. My grade for the night, F.
Some openers I thought about while just standing there or got from the game or other resources
Friend has a GF that found a box of sentimental things from past GF and wants to discard them blah blah blah.
Who lies more, men or women?
What pizza toppings do you like?
If you had a super power, what would it be - i think this can turn into a game...However, it seems invisibility seems to be the most common answer.
I know i came up with more, but i can't think about it right now, so maybe more later
How it all started
I've been out of college for about 2 years now, basically ending my long distance relationship the christmas after i started working. The 3 hour time difference just wasn't working out for us. The relationship wasn't the best of times, and it was a rather short relationship so it wasn't that terrible of a loss. But trying to meet new people was hard to me, coming from college, it was really easy to meet people my age from friends of friends or through parties. However, work life is tremendously different, especially at an engineering company. Granted, the company I work for is rather large, and there are a large number of Recent College Grads working here, but the social dynamics are completely different. Well the routine started and next thing I know i've been working here for 2 years and haven't had a potential since college. At first it didn't really bother me, but slowly it just started eating away at me....did i make a mistake by not taking some of my college relationships farther etc. I don't know how it came up really, but my friend dropped off the answer I needed. He gave me a copy of "The Game." I was rather skeptical at first but if anything the book was an interested read. I struggled at first with the thought of turning myself in to a PUA. Did I really want to objectify women just so that I can have relationships with them. This of course is the social programming I had. I had a rather perfect view of what women are, and they were the perfect being, and to treat them any different just felt wrong. That was about a 4 months ago, but I have just now decided to really go with the flow. I don't know what really went into my decision, maybe it was a recent breakup of a friend who is a natural, or maybe it was my lonliness starting to tear away at me. Either way I needed a change in the lifestyle I was living....and here is to my first step at becomming a PUA.
Why
Hey all,
So this is my first post as warzer, i typically use another name but it seems to have taken (even though i use a miss spelled version of it). Like many others I have mutliple blogs, so why a new one and under a name i don't even use? Well, to be honest, i wanted to keep this blog more secretive, away from my friends and family and such. And why would I want to do that? Well because this blog is to document my change from an AFC into a PUA. Whether other people read this post is of no concern, it is for my own self reflection in the future, when I have become a PUA. However, if lots of people read it, it would succeed in fulfilling validation that all bloggers need. Or if anything to serve as advice to my transformation. Another benefit of doing this blog and keeping more of a weekly journal is to improve my writting in both grammer and spelling. So if there are any readers out there, please feel free to point out any grammer mistakes or better ways to phrase my thoughts so that they are more concise.
